Check out this great piece on Motherlode, which seems written in response to some of the discussion we had to the posts Under the hero's cape and Outcomes: How to let go.
Here's how it begins:
"I would do anything to help my child." Who hasn't said that and followed up their words with actions? But the parents of special needs children get to prove it on what seems to be a daily basis, since there is always a new therapy, medication, school or tutoring option being presented to us. And we often leap before we look. Even when a program doesn't sound quite right, hey, like the lottery, you never know. What if this one thing you choose not to try is "it?" Aside from fearing that, we get afraid of being branded as the mother who doesn't care enough to go through the wringer as well as her life savings.