Growing up fatherless.........

It's no big secret that Forrest has a son from a previous marriage and I have a son from a previous marriage. Hunter lives with his mom and comes to visit us every other weekend, but Joncarlo is with us 24/7. He doesn't go anywhere every other weekend, he has never called anyone "dad." I was married to Joncarlo's dad before he was born on September 4, 2004. His biological father and I met at the wrong place.......the casino, and did nothing but party and drink together until I got pregnant. That's when it's time for both of us to grow up right? Wrong! I was not able to go out anymore so I naturally thought my husband would stay at home with me, but it didn't work out that way. You see he was not from around here, he wasn't even from this country. He was from Panama, Central America, and over there the wives stay at home to cook, clean, and take care of the kids while the husbands do whatever. I dealt with it the entire time I was pregnant. After Joncarlo was born I just knew he would change and would want to be at home with his family. One month after Joncarlo was born his dad was in a four wheeler accident. He broke his arm which required him to have surgery to fix........nothing was the same after that. He started drinking more than ever. The verbal abuse got worse, and slowly the physical abuse started. He would come in on a rampage and break stuff. A pair of my glasses got broken, he shattered a bottle of perfume in our bathroom, broke the coffee table in the living room, and hit my truck I was driving at the time. All of those things could be replaced, and I never told anyone about it. I kept it to myself and just praying that he would change. It wasn't long until the police started getting involved. I didn't feel safe anymore in my own house, and I was going to do whatever I had to do to protect my child. I have had a knife pulled in me, he tried to throw me out of a moving vehicle, and not to mention the countless number of times I was pushed around. I took it all, and it wasn't until he physically hurt Joncarlo that I stepped up and said "that's enough," and filed for divorce. Standing in the drive way one night he intentionally hit his own son's leg with his car. Joncarlo was fine, nothing was broken. He did have a scratch and it did bruise. He was so little he really wasn't aware of what was happening. His dad and I separated when he was about 14 months old. When I had him served with divorce papers that's when the fight began. He threatened to take my son and leave the country. I was never going to see him again. I filed every single kind of petition possible to protect Joncarlo. We hardly ever left the house because I was scared. During this time his dad got 2 DUI's so that really helped me out with getting supervised visitation granted. That was a waste of time because he never wanted to visit with him. He kept fighting me and I kept fighting back with everything that I had in me. In the end he gave up. When we started discussing child support he said he was not going to pay me one single dime. That was fine by me because I didn't need any of his money. I have a great family that would never let Joncarlo go without anything. A separate attorney was hired for Joncarlo that knew nothing about our case. I met with her, and them he met with her. Just like that he signed over all of his parental rights as the father to Joncarlo. I was now a 100% single parent. Joncarlo and I had our names changed and he has been Joncarlo Lee Franklin for several years now. Life has been hard at times, and yes I have felt guilty because he has not ever had someone in his life to call "dad." Though it was not my decision to do what his dad did as a mom you hurt for your children. A dad is not something I could go to the store and buy for him. He has a Paw Paw, but even a great Paw Paw is not the same as a dad. When Forrest and I started talking he had a "father figure" in his life, and that was the greatest thing ever for me. It did take some time for Joncarlo and Forrest to transition into everything, but now Joncarlo runs to Forrest over me!!!! After we got married there was some talk of Forrest adopting Joncarlo, but something always came up. We were working on our time and not God's time. I would bring up the subject and instead of discussion it would turn into argument. This year has been a very hard year for Forrest and I, but it has brought us so much closer to God and to each other. I knew that he was always going to love Joncarlo just like he loves Hunter and Joncarlo was always going to be his son. It doesn't matter what a piece of paper says, all that matters is the love and trust we all have in God. A few Sunday's ago while we were almost home and Forrest turned in the opposite direction. He said he wanted to talk to me about something. He poured his heart out to me and said he was going to contact our attorney the next morning to get the ball rolling on adopting Joncarlo. Tears were rolling down my face I was so excited. After the papers were drawn up, and a physical exam on Joncarlo was done to prove that he was healthy, all 3 of us stood before a judge on October 15, 2012. Ladies and Gentlemen I am proud to introduce to you JONCARLO LEE DUNLOP!!!!!!





IT'S A BOY!!!